How to Ride Out Your Sexual Desires
Sexual desire is temporary – finding a way to make it through until your desire fades can be an effective way to get on top of pornography use. This can do a lot to make resisting pornography easier.
Failure can seem inevitable
Battling pornography can seem like a daunting task. For many men that been using pornography for a very long time it can seem impossible. They have tried to stop over the years, and have become used to the idea that they can never stop. For them, it can seem like using pornography is just going to be inevitable. Failure can feel like it’s just around the corner, and almost impossible to resist.
Desire comes in waves
However, what many men often don’t realise – or sometimes forget – is that sexual desire comes in waves. If we aren’t able to satisfy our sexual desires in a fairly short period of time, the desire starts to fade away. Of course, this doesn’t mean it goes away forever, but the key point here is that you don’t need to be on your guard 24/7.
Delay, and the desire fades
If you’re able to take some time to put off using pornography, then your desire fades away. This is just part of the normal biological cycle. The length of time between the desire rising again varies by person. For some people it might be fairly quick, but for others they can buy quite a lot of time when they can put off using pornography.
Increasing your odds of resisting pornography
There are some things you can do to help yourself in resisting pornography. For instance, taking some time to do something relaxing, some activity that you regard as being positive or wholesome – such as exercise, some mindfulness or something else that puts you in the present moment.
This will not only make you feel better but will help buy you some time.
Hold on, ride it out
So the key thing is here; when you feel a strong desire to use pornography and you feel that your resolve is weakening, and you’re afraid that you’re inevitably going to give way, just remember you don’t have to hold out forever – just until the desire fades away.
I offer individual counselling and couples counselling regarding pornography use in Richmond in Sunbury.
Let me know what you think in the comments. Now, read about Stepping Forwards into a Life without Pornography.
Tim Hill
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