Sexual Fantasy Development and Porn
Men’s use of pornography – and the criticisms of it – is often focused on mature men. These men are often married or in relationship, and when discovered using pornography,
A Certain Look – Understanding Men’s Tastes in Porn
Although there is only limited value in stereotypes, it seems that many men seek to look at women in pornography who have a certain look. In short, this look often
Desire Discrepancy and Hypersexuality
In almost all couples, one member of the couple has a higher sex drive than the other. This is because it’s very unusual to have two people with sexual desires that
Pornography and Men’s Vulnerability
One of the things that makes understanding pornography use hard – for both the person who uses it, and their partner – is that pornography and sex are so different.
Pornography and Trust:
Men typically start using pornography when they’re teenagers. For many men, this usage continues into their adulthood, even when they’re in an intimate, sexual relationship with another adult. However, no
Why We Can’t Agree on What is Pornography
In 1964, United States Supreme Court Justice Potter Stewart attempted to define pornography in Jacobellis v. Ohio. Famously, he said that he wasn’t able to define pornography but said “I
Three Paths: Stopping Porn Your Way
I work with men who want to reduce or stop their pornography use, but today I’m going to focus on those who want to stop. The men who stop using
Getting Some Answers on ‘Is Masturbation Harmful?’
The majority of clients I work with believe that pornography is unhelpful and something that they would rather find some way of stopping. However, in regards to masturbation, there’s a
Pornography – Avoiding the Feelings of Betrayal and Pain
One reason that some partners have strong reactions to pornography use concerns the circumstances under which it happens. If these circumstances were different, the partner’s reactions could be different. If
“Help! I’ve Been Told Porn Will Rewire Your Brain!”
In popular culture, there’s a lot of concern that porn will rewire your brain. It’s claimed that pornography use changes the way that we think and has the power to
The Assumptions that Partners of Porn Users Make
One of the biggest difficulties with pornography is how it is seen differently by users of pornography and partners of porn users. Men and pornography My experience in working
The Importance of Your Fantasy Life
As we become older, our parents expect that we will give up our childish ways. Part of what they see as our childish ways are our fantasies; our playful ideas
Discovering What Men Want in Relationships
Men sometimes feel that they don’t know how to do relationships. We can feel confident and competent in other areas of our lives, but we can feel lost when it comes
Men Like to Look: Dealing with the Way We Are Wired
Men’s visual orientation is seemingly one key variation between the sexes, especially when it comes to sex. It can be frustrating to know that men like to look; with such
Pornography: It’s Much More Than Just Sex
Look beyond the sex; we really need to understand why someone uses pornography if we’re to understand how they can stop using it. The first step is to realise that