Stepping Forwards into a Life without Porn
Men who are battling with pornography often experience it as an argument inside their head. It feels like on one hand, part of you is arguing to be able to
Author Archives: Tim Hill
Sexual Fantasy Development and Porn
Men’s use of pornography – and the criticisms of it – is often focused on mature men. These men are often married or in relationship, and when discovered using pornography,
How to Prepare Yourself for Your Partner’s Porn Secrets
Men in relationships who are caught using pornography often find that their partners demand full disclosure. If you are in a relationship with a pornography user, you’ll probably want to
Disclosing Your Secrets: It Can Make It Worse
All of us occasionally do things that are not in the best interests of our partner. As a consequence of this, we often need to come clean about what we
A Certain Look – Understanding Men’s Tastes in Porn
Although there is only limited value in stereotypes, it seems that many men seek to look at women in pornography who have a certain look. In short, this look often
Desire Discrepancy and Hypersexuality
In almost all couples, one member of the couple has a higher sex drive than the other. This is because it’s very unusual to have two people with sexual desires that
Pornography and Men’s Vulnerability
One of the things that makes understanding pornography use hard – for both the person who uses it, and their partner – is that pornography and sex are so different.
Pornography and Trust:
Men typically start using pornography when they’re teenagers. For many men, this usage continues into their adulthood, even when they’re in an intimate, sexual relationship with another adult. However, no
Porn and Social Anxiety: What’s the Connection?
Many men who use pornography often admit to having difficulties forming relationships with people. This can take a few different forms, but a typical example is feeling uncomfortable around other
Why We Can’t Agree on What is Pornography
In 1964, United States Supreme Court Justice Potter Stewart attempted to define pornography in Jacobellis v. Ohio. Famously, he said that he wasn’t able to define pornography but said “I
Three Paths: Stopping Porn Your Way
I work with men who want to reduce or stop their pornography use, but today I’m going to focus on those who want to stop. The men who stop using
Why Aren’t We Talking about Sex?
Sex is a central part of life for many people. Communication is also an essential part of life for many people. However, the amount of communication that we do about
Sexual Fidelity: Does It Mean What You Think It Means?
Our sexuality is a unique part of us. It sits at the core of our personality and is an expression of a deeply personal and intimate part of who we
Getting Some Answers on ‘Is Masturbation Harmful?’
The majority of clients I work with believe that pornography is unhelpful and something that they would rather find some way of stopping. However, in regards to masturbation, there’s a
Pornography – Avoiding the Feelings of Betrayal and Pain
One reason that some partners have strong reactions to pornography use concerns the circumstances under which it happens. If these circumstances were different, the partner’s reactions could be different. If